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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • I’m also in my 60s, I’m recently retired, and have been reading quite a bit (not as much as you, but I’m on my 70th book since the beginning of the year).

    A couple years ago, I started keeping a log of the books I’ve read. It’s just title, author, brief synopsis, whether I liked it or not, and maybe a little commentary. I initially started it just so I could remember what books I read, but then some friends started asking to see it to help them their next book.

    It’s really helped me remember what I’ve read. Often I can remember just from hearing the title, but sometimes I have to look back at my notes, and then it usually all comes back to me. You might give it a try and see if it helps you, too.


  • When I was in college, I worked at a junior high, doing noon supervision and stuff. One day I was walking down the hall when a teacher came up with a 13-year-old girl and asked me to take her to the principal’s office so her mom could bring her appropriate clothes. The girl was dressed pretty inappropriately for school, for sure, with a very revealing top and booty shorts.

    So I take her there and I’m to wait to escort her back. The mom comes, and she’s very apologetic. She said her daughter wasn’t dressed like that when she left for school, she must have changed in the bathroom. She said she was very sorry and would make sure it didn’t happen again, etc.

    The thing is, the mom was basically naked, She had on a tiny skirt, a translucent shirt, and no bra. I could tell the principal was completely flustered and was trying to figure out something to say, but eventually just said thank you.





  • My mom died of Alzheimer’s, but she also had bad rheumatoid arthritis and some other stuff. When she just didn’t know who we were, it was one thing, but when every day she woke up in pain, had to have her diapers changed by “strangers,” couldn’t swallow solid food, etc., I just didn’t understand why my siblings wanted to keep her on the medication that slowed the progress of the Alzheimer’s. I finally had my brother stay with her over a weekend, and afterwards he was like, “Oh, she’s having a miserable life, what are we doing?” We stopped the medication soon after, and she died a few months later.




  • I’m an old guy, and have had lots of pet over my life. so I’ve thought about this a lot.

    Years ago I came to the position that the most compassionate thing to do for my pets was to try and assess if their days are more full of joy, or more full of pain and suffering. We can’t ask our pets that, we can only do our best to figure it out. If they’re spending more time suffering than enjoying their lives, then I think it’s a kindness to put them down.

    We don’t usually have to make that decision for other humans, because they can decide for themselves. Note that we do make the decision sometimes to “pull the plug” on people rather than keep the alive.

    Also note that animals do sometimes go off to die when they’re sick and miserable. In fact, when dogs and cats have illnesses that are miserable but treatable, we sometimes have to be careful that they don’t go off to die before treatment is done.