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Cake day: 2023年6月19日

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  • Good luck!

    My recommendation is to cover the top of the trap with an old towel or blanket and leave it open (at both ends) with the bait food in it for a few days so Bread gets used to going into it for the food. Then close the trigger end and move the food towards the trigger. Once he’s comfortable going right into the trap for the food, you can arm it.

    Keep in mind that you probably only get one shot at this - if he gets out of the trap, he’s probably never going to go near one again. I lost a couple of strays that way before I realise that the trap I was using had a hidden flaw (a strong male cat could push against the spring-loaded end enough to bow the bottom of it and squeeze out). I’ve since reinforced it to prevent that issue.











  • I suggest you tell them the truth and be prepared to find somewhere else to live. Whilst you were not directly involved in sexually harassing K, you let it happen and her parents (let alone K) will likely not trust you again for a long time. K will need counselling as she has been seriously traumatised - she’s been sexually harassed in her own home by friends of someone she trusted whilst that person did nothing to stop them. A key place and person she thought were safe have been shown not to be. That’s not going to heal quickly, nor without help.

    If you want to try to rebuild the relationship in any way, you’re going to need to do a lot of work and it’s going to take a lot of time. An apology - to her and her parents - is just the first step. You’re also going to need to show that you are not the same as your schoolmates who sexually harassed her. If I were K’s parents, I’d expect you to report those schoolmates to the police and cut ties with them at minimum.