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  • CrypticCoffee@lemmy.mltoMental Health*Permanently Deleted*
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    27 days ago

    You shouldn’t need to constantly defend yourself. The most important persons opinion on you, is you. Who do you want to be, how do you want to act? If x decision happens, was it the best decision you could make at the time with the information you have? If so, good call. Even if in hindsight it was wrong, no one can see the future.

    If you constantly have to defend yourself, do you have toxic people in your life? Is the criticism aimed at you for your benefit or theirs? If theirs, learn to take a step back.

    Rather than defending yourself which drags you into the mud with them, deflect it away. “If you say so.” “I’m sorry you feel that way”. There is a book called When I Say No, I feel Guilty, and it’s great at teaching you practical ways to resist other manipulation etc.

    Most importantly, if you wouldn’t change your decisions, take comfort and pride in them. If you make a mistake, don’t feel guilty, think how you’d do things differently next time. How you can learn from it. Guilt is wasted energy, redemption is much more positive way to channel things. “Well, I did this and maybe I wronged x, one thing I could do to improve things for person is this”.

    I wish you luck on building yourself up, one step at a time. At your own time. Bad days happen and it’s OK, tomorrow is a new day. A new opportunity to change and improve things for your self.












  • Astroturfing is designed not to look like an ad. It’s supposed to look like grassroots support for a product. Legitimising it for the audience. Strategically, it’s effective. “Privacy market leader is bad for x, y and z, what do you think of competitor?”. It’s classic marketing of “here is problem, here is solution”. Just subtle.

    Most people here are probably off gmail or close to it. Best way to make inroads is work your way into a niche which Proton, Tuta, Mailbox did to great effect. As I say, I don’t trash the tried and tested options including rival products of Proton. This is email though, usually you want to put data in hands of companies you trust. Its the reason folk running from google, yahoo, outlook. Being careful and skeptical is good.