A 50-something French dude that’s old enough to think blogs are still cool, if not cooler than ever. I also like to write and to sketch.

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Cake day: June 4th, 2025

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  • It depends who you ask my reasons not to date:

    • I would tell you it’s because my spouse and I have been together for almost 30 years and, well, I have yet to find someone else able to make we want to engage in anything potentially meaningful.
    • I imagine some people would say it’s because I’m getting too old (and bald, and too grumpy) to be allowed to have fun, or just that I’m too ugly.
    • Finally, some extremely fascinating persons, may tell you I don’t date because I’m a giant lizard wearing a human costume that is afraid my true nature would be revealed if I ever were to become intimate with another human being. Obviously, if it was still among us, my pet hamster would tell you that’s non-sense :p

  • Nice!

    Have you considered adding I want a community driven distro (as opposed to distros like Fedora or Suse)

    I tested it and was surprised to not be offered Mint (the one I’m using and that fits me rather well) just because of the ‘proprietary drivers’ option. I checked that I wanted to use ‘Free software as much as possible’ but in doing so, in my mind at least, the whole sentence had equal importance, aka: I’ll go free as much as I can provided I can make my computer work. Maybe it could be worth considering detailing a little more what the choice are?







  • You lost me at ‘Fuck’. As a potential new member, how could I be willing to engage in a community putting forward rudeness?

    I would suggest you may want to consider to calmly explain the issue at hand (my Lemmy feed is tightly curated and I do not think I noticed much of what you mention), without insulting anyone and without using doubtful dirty tricks to grab people’s attention, maybe sharing some real world examples?







  • I recently started reading more books and really enjoy it. My only problem is, there is so much choice, I feel overwhelmed. At the moment I just read some random books that I got for free from someone.

    It’s normal to feel overwhelmed as there is an almost limitless amount of books to chose from. The best advice I may give you is to talk to your local library. Most librarians are more than happy to help a new reader find their bearings (based on what you think you might enjoy, say scifi, or fantasy, or romance, or biographies, or whatever), no matter your previous (lack of) experience :)

    In the city there is also a public bookshelf. Does your city have this as well?

    Library? We do (multiple ones), but I do live in a rather large city.

    I also tried chess, but could never really get into it. I can never remember which moves I’m allowed to make with the pieces.

    You will learn the rules by playing, there are not that many they’re just… arbitrary (like any rule). To learn the basics you can create a free account on chess.com and follow their beginner tutorial (there is no need to subscribe to one of their paid plan), or you can use lichess.org (100% free, this time): https://lichess.org/learn and then you can start playing against players or bots (at least on chess. com there are bots for absolute beginners to play against).

    The one tip as a beginner that is just starting is to be ok with losing a lot of games. That’s to be expected, don’t take it personally. That’s how most of us learn… anything, by failing and by being bad at it to begin with ;)


  • Any Friday/weekend plans?

    Read & write. Spend time with my spouse. Hopefully, being done with some that has been preventing me to walk as much I would have liked for the last week.

    if you’re looking for something to do this WE, have you considered reading? I mean, I’m well into my 50s and I can’t remember that many times in my life I felt bored (or lonely), thanks to books. It doesn’t matter the type of book or their genre, they’re great companions ;)

    If you’re more into games and want to chat with people: chess maybe an option: play a few games (for free on lichess.org, or even on chess.com but this one comes with ads) and with any luck a conversation might start with another player. You can also check in your area oif there is no club/public place where people can play IRL



  • I’m specifically asking if the person that expects someone else to apologize is driven by their own narcissism.

    Two things come to my mind:

    • It all depends the context.
      Context will tell if there is or there isn’t narcissism involved, which is more frequent than one would like to think imho. I would say it’s narcissistic when it’s used against someone else, to give oneself an edge against that person, to make them feel bad, or when it’s expected because one thinks they deserve apologies, something like that (it’s just raw thoughts). It’s not when apologies are expected not because one deserves them but because, the roles were switched, apologizing is what one would do if they had done something similar to someone else .
    • Apologies are never a single person action, a single direction act.
      I mean, apologies are always at the same time received and given, given and received. It’s an interaction between at least two persons (or one person and the entire civil society, in the case of most criminal affairs: they’re public for a reason). It’s never a monologue… or it should not be, if it is to mean something. Whereas narcissism is all about the self: it’s Narcissus admiring its own image in the water, considering nothing but himself.

    So, a sincere apology is always something bidirectional, and not about oneself. It’s a tool used to create/reinforce/fix a weakened or a broken bound between two or more people.



  • I did that in the journaling community I mod. During 6 months or so I posted almost daily, then weekly content. I had to put it on hold for the last few months. But I had very little feedback all that time. After I put in on hold, at first there was no activity going on at all. Then, a few posts were created, and other members commented. There is still not much going on but it was nice to see nonetheless. Hope to see more :)

    The real odd thing for me is that we gained a lot of new members (when I relaunched the community, there was probably less than 200 members, we’re more than 900 today), and still almost no one is posting. Not sure why.