If I need a support group to feel comfortable and safe under “my” own label, there’s something wrong.

It’s been better on my mental health to just stay far away from communities that want to simultaneously say I belong and yet also call me an acephobic bigot for the sin of not wanting sex-yes shoved down my throat in what I hoped was a community of fellow sex-no’s.

No thanks. Don’t need that. I lucked out and landed both romance-no AND sex-no, so I have the easier option of just dodging that entire scene.

And that’s why I instead offer my condolences to the romance-yes, sex-no people out there who now have to seek partners in very sex-yes filled spaces when they were JUST starting to get some sex-no spaces.

I would appreciate it if the two had separate labels so that they could enjoy their own commonalities, rather than being lumped into one despite being very, very different. Incompatibly different.

It feels like the equivalent of a lot of guys going into a space for gay guys, saying “I’m totally gay, but I really prefer sex with women and if you say a guy having sex with women ain’t gay then you’re just homophobic”.

Then on every single post about guys with guys, you get comments saying “Guys like girls too! Don’t forget about us!”

Like, Bisexual and Heterosexual are right there. Why go into a Homosexual space and change it instead?

“and help that be a self-fulfilling prophecy by not caring that it makes people looking for others who are naturally not sexual very uncomfortable to be considered under the same label.”

Thanks for being among them. This is why I don’t use that descriptor online anymore, nor go to online asexual communities.

There’s a lot of people whose sexuality is NO, and being forced to share “safe” spaces online for their shared lack of sexuality with people who also say they’re asexual but their sexuality is YES is awkward, uncomfortable, and off-putting.

AKA no longer safe spaces (or a safe to use label) for those whose sexuality is NO.

Currently, thankfully, people offline still seem to understand “I’m asexual” means “No, I do not want to fuck. Not anyone, not ever.”

A lot if horny people like the idea of joining the LGBT club and ironically found the Asexual label the easiest one to morph to their desires.

So now a lot of people online will say asexuals are still very much sexual, and help that be a self-fulfilling prophecy by not caring that it makes people looking for others who are naturally not sexual very uncomfortable to be considered under the same label.

Bojack Horseman.

Except I canceled my Netflix.

Or the day they don’t vote against.

“DO NOT SHOW THIS TO REDDIT”

Fitting in with the fediverse already!

Is this one you’d be able to share? Or one you heard about but never found?

Sounds like an interesting study to read through, eben if the results are depressing.

I knew it had relation to 42! I just got the how wrong!

There’s a queer label that still fits me offline, but online queer communities have changed the definition to be so broad that I can’t feel comfortable using it anymore, nor feel any sort of belonging in those groups anymore.

I do worry it will slowly seep offline. So I know I need to be prepared for that. Words not having a clear, understandable definition makes communication extremely difficult and misunderstandings easy.

That in mind, I’ve also come to dislike labels, but for the reverse reason. Once used as a shorthand to communicate something clearly in a simpler one-word format that people can easily understand, now used as obscure terms that need more explaining once you say them. Defeating the entire original purpose.

I’ve adapted by throwing away the label, and only using a definition without need of a word attatched.

Funnily enough, I’ve found mental comfort in doing the opposite.

I used to get annoyed daily at online communities stretching words to mean whatever people want them to mean in the moment. It’s been much better for my mental health to just leave those communities.

Because I’m tired of this illegitimate felon squatter in the White House getting away with all this bullshit and any time he “takes a loss” all he has to do is nothing.

Court orders mean jack shit if he can just ignore them and have no consequences. I don’t even k ow why they’re so scared of this Epstein stuff. Like they’ll have any real consequences? What’s gonna happen, a strongly worded letter of disapproval?

“Loss” after “loss”, and no consequences that mean anything. It’s hard to have faith when this happens over and over again.

Not a lemmy meme. It’s kids these days.

67 is my favorite current meme.

My understanding: It means the opposite of 42. And it gets funnier every time someone is baffled by it.

I lose the game every time someone shares a loss meme. I find that meme stupid so I happily share my loss of The Game to make everyone else suffer a loss with me!

How have possom pics become so common anyways? Have they become a common pet animal?

The one I remember is corn, carrots, and peas. That mixture is why I thought cooked carrots were the most disgusting thing… And I think the corns’ flavor took a hit as well because the only good canned corn was creamed corn.

Creamed corn and green beans are amazing agreed.I also picked up a love of canned sweet peas.

Some things can way better than others.

Taking the Pill has never really been something I considered since I’m not a fan of taking pills outside of medical necessity (exception for ibuprofen because pain sucks). I also kind assumed force blocking it permanently would be really bad for some health reason.

If it’s not though and I can really just deleteit like that… Very much worth looking into. Useful to know!

The comments are teaching me I grew up poor and still eat poor.

I mean I knew the second part. But those damn canned mixed veggies were disgusting.