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  • Im assuming that you’re young, so plenty of time to try stuff and make mistakes. I’m much older and still don’t know what to do with my life. Yes, try a hobby or two, see what sticks. Yes, see what the college is offering. Yes, see if you can get a job. Keep making decisions (it doesn’t matter (major caveat here!) if they turn out to be the wrong decisions) keep moving, keep learning, keep growing.

    Don’t think that a college code will define you long term, people can have many successful careers in one lifetime. It just arts the starting point.

    If you learn from each opportunity, everything is beneficial in the long run.



  • RandomUsertoNo Stupid QuestionsAre password managers secure to use?
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    I won’t say which manager I use, but I used a ‘tool’ on it which cracked my access password in very little time revealing all my passwords. - a bit worrying.

    Do I still use that manager? Yes, it’s convenient and fits my risk profile.

    Have I upgraded my master password? Yes. Less convenient, but is all a trade off.

    If I was a higher profile target, my assessment may be different.


  • Size: height depth width… Can be easy to miss one dimension. Energy rating - obvious reasons Noise depending on the room it’s in Ergonomics - can you reach all the bits you need to… Imagine filling it with your weekly shop. - better energy rating=more insulation=less space. Doors can generally be reversed, but check. Some FFs have two compressor circuits, others only one. Can be important if keeping it in a garage. Do you need a water cooler/ice maker thing? More to clean, more to go wrong. YOUR FRIDGE DOES NOT NEED AN INTERNET CONNECTION Nor does it need funky windows & stuff Self defrost is a must. We spent ages discussing colour, now you can barely see it behind pictures & papers etc.

    Think " is this a useful feature for me, or is it marketing fluff? "

    Finally, while a fridge should be a long term purchase, is just a box that gets cold. Don’t lose sleep over it.






  • After much thought I feel ID cards have their place, we kind of have them now as places expect you to have a drivers licence or passport to prove ID or age. My problem with digital is that it isn’t necessarily secure and by the time it’s been done it’ll be significantly over budget.

    What about people without smartphones? - they do exist, and this scheme will risk marginalising some of them.

    I think the scheme needs careful thought. One ID which the different organisations can scan to get data relevant to their needs only. NHS, tax, proof of age, proof of address, national insurance etc. If the card was sufficiently smart it could hold emergency data, allergies/ health issues, next of kin etc.

    I’m comfortably into my second half century. In time I’ll give up on passports and driving licences. I’ll probably give up on smartphones as well (the screen’s too small to see easily already). What then? I won’t be able to prove my existence via the accepted means. I worry that the digital destitution will lead to physical destitution and isn’t something I look forward to.

    Digital isn’t a panacea.

    A physical ID card backed up with appropriately integrated government services rolling out over time would get my vote, but I’m confident it won’t happen.


  • I have tinnitus primarily in my left ear. After seeing the audiologist I was given a noise generator, basically a hearing aid that make a constant noise but doesn’t amplify sound. - I go with white noise but other options are available.

    The idea is that it trains the brain to ignore the tinnitus noise. Note it doesn’t cure the cause but mitigates the symptom. It works very well for me, so much so that I’m getting a second unit for my other ear. The unit also streams from my phone which is very useful in and of itself.

    This is in the uk where they’re provided free on the NHS. I guess if you’re in the us, then you’ll have to sell the house, car and kids too afford the initial consultation.




  • Right! Take a deep breath. You are the same person that you were yesterday, in that, the diagnosis means very little. I had no emotional response to my adult diagnosis either, though it has had an impact down the line that i’m still processing.

    I too was the weird kid, now I’m just eccentric and mostly harmless. Accept yourself for who you are, the world needs more interesting people and if those in your circle can’t accept you, you deserve to find yourself a better circle.

    Talk, friend. It may be cathartic, or you may work something out for yourself and find a new path. It’s all good

    Being ND in a Neuroboring world will likely always be difficult, do what you can to make it easier without compromising yourself. - I’ve stopped masking, and don’t care that much if I cause a little disruption!



  • If it’s your first car, I’ll assume that you’re young(ish) and or an inexperienced driver. Please forgive the assumptions if they’re wrong as the following is good advice for anyone.

    Get yourself on an advanced drivers course. Many IAM local units used to do disounts for younger people, they may still do. They teach you to drive properly using the same system the emergency services use. Can save a massive hit on your insurance if you’re involved in an accident.

    I thought I was a good driver beforehand, but it taught me loads.





  • RandomUsertoAutismEye Contact, Body Language, and Misperception
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    People are strange. NT people are stranger. I too fail to move from positive first meeting to friend (whatever that is). - to be honest it’s something I’m not uncomfortable with. I don’t know what is said behind my back at work, but as I can be rather ferocious at times people tend to be careful. Being good at my job probably helps too.

    One thing that did occur to me, and this is not meant to be offensive is that the uncanny valley may play a part. If you don’t know what this is, it started with humanoid robots that looked too human and they freaked people out, while non human robots were fine. If the masking isn’t perfect NTs can have a hard time with accepting, however people on the other side of the valley can be ‘endearingly eccentric’ and get along fine. I don’t mask anymore, I go for eccentric, it’s easier. It is however a fine line and even I have to pretend to be normal sometimes.


  • RandomUserOPtoAutismInformed work
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    Getting diagnised: I suspected that I was ‘different’ for many years. I thought I was autistic for a few years but didn’t really admit it to myself. Finally I decided that I should get tested and stop hiding from it. I still only tell people on a need to know basis at the moment, but is an open secret.

    Telling work: People at work know I’m not NT shall we say, but being in a technical field it’s kind of accepted. Work wise however it has held me back. I’ve been given (well meaning) opportunities that I’ve not been able to thrive with. Things are getting a little more cut throat nowadays, with more severe consequences, so I thought anything that I can do to preemptively rebalance the deck must be a good idea.

    It means that I can have a conversation along the lines of “you know I’m going to have difficulty doing X with Y people, so I’ll need some support there, but you know I’ll do Z really well. Can we work something out?” Previously I’d just struggle with, and probably fail the whole task, benefitting noone. I’d get over stressed so probably fail other things too. To be absolutely honest, I’m too old and too tired for that shit. Another aspect is that being professional is communicating where you are not able to do a task to a high enough standard. The diagnosis allows me to do this in an open and constructive way.