Of course it is since the patriarchy is real.
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StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Ask Lemmy•Which one of your views gets you labeled as "the other"?
1·12 天前Look back on my profile at the recent comment where I mentioned Johnny Depp being a disgusting drunk rapist who groomed a woman half his age and sued her for defaming him when she spoke about the backlash she received for speaking out against his domestic abuse.
its a shame that the cast ruined it by being an abusive rapist (Depp) and one of his core defenders (Carter)
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
UK Politics@feddit.uk•Could a wealth tax convince young people to vote Labour?
7·28 天前nope. the greens finally seem like a viable alternative for young people. labour has spent too long chasing the Nazi vote
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Ask Lemmy•If your lifes goal was to make life better for as many people as possible how would you go about achieving it, assuming you could get start-up capital for your project?
4·1 个月前i’m dirt poor but I feel like ive already has quite an impact on a reasonable number of people. I won’t take about the specific things that i get up to but community work can reach a lot of people if you do it right. start a food not bombs, open an autonomous squatted homeless shelter
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Rant@lemmy.sdf.org•A rant on left-wing online infightingEnglish
2·1 个月前Reflect on why I called you an idiot and OP got a proper response. Idiot.
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Rant@lemmy.sdf.org•A rant on left-wing online infightingEnglish
2·1 个月前Actually, my own community is really nice and healthy. It takes a lot to get kicked out but people can choose not to hang out with people. Idiot.
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Rant@lemmy.sdf.org•A rant on left-wing online infightingEnglish
1·1 个月前I’m not particularly experienced in online moderation, especially in managing serious issues in those spaces, so I would have to ask a friend about it, though I think the space she manages has different rules to her own views from what she has said. I doubt that the same issues that I am talking about occur as frequently though. The internet is much more anonymous and its full of trolls. I actually think its much harder to cultivate a culture online. I don’t really think that anyone is actively changing their mind through anonymous online discussion. The idea of that being a thing was part of an astroturfing campaign to normalise shitty views.
IRL, I work with others from all over the left and I tend to be someone who is responsible for the emotional labour of accountability. You can’t physically completely ban people from a scene without convincing as many people as possible not to hang out with them. You can ban them from chats easily enough, but people will cause a stink if you don’t “use proper channels” and the worst predators will still show up to events anyway. Most of the time garden variety bigotry doesn’t become enough of an issue to do that. Usually that only becomes an issue when someone starts hounding marginalised people and/or attending far-right events. People will often confront each other over bigotry before whisper networks develop but imo gossip is a really healthy way of keeping check.
What I mean is that prioritizing reducing infighting means that people within a community aren’t familiar with raising issues, which means speaking out isn’t normalized. It replicates the patriarchy on a smaller scale.
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Rant@lemmy.sdf.org•A rant on left-wing online infightingEnglish
7·1 个月前Leftist infighting is often people being bigots, predators, or defenders. The right will not be held to account with conversations and discussion but the left will - though you should listen to survivor’s warnings if they say someone has been dodging accountability for years and that they aren’t worth the effort.
As an organiser, a large chunk of my work is ensuring that certain predators, bigots and defenders don’t worm back in without changing anything. It means that survivors are safer to take part and that there is further freedom to speak up.
Prioritizing avoiding infighting to keep the peace is cop shit and is useful for predators, bigots and defenders to bide time. It also allows for a culture where those unaffected by those issues gain power.
I think that is the experience for anyone who doesn’t present as a gender conforming man who is conventionally attractive though usually when men do it towards me as a very femme presenting woman, it comes with some awful behaviour.
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What's a service you’ve been using forever that hasn’t enshitified?
1·2 个月前alternatively you could use your imagination. get used to it without porn and you’ll have better sex too.
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
No Stupid Questions•Did it really used to be common for guys to go to a bar every night like in Cheers or The Simpsons?
3·2 个月前me and my friends used to be regulars in a shitty pub where there was a group of older people who would be in there all day every day.
he was probably double my age but it didn’t stop him coming over to our table and pestering me and some of the other women.
we didn’t go in too frequently but the staff recognised us as regulars. we had to stop because some nasty people would come in on a specific day and one of our group wqs afraid of running into them.
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Showerthoughts•The people who protest against the Palestinian Genocide would be the same people who protested against the Holocaust.
2·2 个月前I completely agree. anti-Deutsch have be3j internationally condemned
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Wordpress@sh.itjust.works•Automattic files counterclaims against WP Engine in WordPress lawsuit, alleging trademark misuse
2·2 个月前it would be nice for the court to give wp engine the trademark as compo for all this fucking about
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Showerthoughts•The people who protest against the Palestinian Genocide would be the same people who protested against the Holocaust.
3·2 个月前its a bit more complex, sadly. german antifascist groups have been leaning towards being very zionist
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Linux•Decided to try out Bazzite on my desktop PC - Distrobox feels like magicEnglish
5·2 个月前it does need activating and it installs an evaluation copy by default. no idea what the poster above is on about.
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
196@lemmy.blahaj.zone•born to be a silly little guy, forced to engage in Tactical FrivruleityEnglish
3·2 个月前at protests people need to move as groups and frequently engage in dearrests. the inflatable suits put people at risk because it means that others have to hang back with them to keep an eye on their 6.
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•men of lemmy, if you've ever taken estrogen, what was it like?
2·2 个月前Yeah. I mean, it demonstrates that the wrong hormones do that ig
StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zoneto
news@lemmings.world•Israeli couple who became symbol of Oct. 7 tragedy are reunited with a kiss for the ages — two years after being torn apartEnglish
61·2 个月前The article doesn’t mention that Noa Argamani also served in the Israeli Navy therefore is not an innocent hostage like they are making out.





women. its called misogyny and its everywhere