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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • TotMtoParentingNew parent. Just had some questions
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    22 days ago

    You’re doing great. The fact that you care and are worried about screwing up speak volumes.

    Babies are lazy. Milk doesn’t come instantly. It takes a little work on their side to trigger a letdown. Bottles are immediate. A lactation consultant may help, not sure if that’s already something you’ve tried. Some babies have a terrible latch so it can be super painful for the breastfeeding parent. There are tongue ties and there are lip ties. Both of my kiddos had mild lip ties that didn’t cause pain most of the time. The site kellymom was super helpful to me in the early weeks. Just ignore the super strict stance on BF-only. Just go for the tips.

    Your wife is doing great. Do things for her, don’t just ask her what she needs and do it. Do things proactively. Bring her water, snacks, a blanket, etc.













  • Those 12 weeks will be no walk in the park. You rightfully state you’ll be taking care of everyone, and it’s 24/7 juggling new dynamics and a whole new human being’s needs.

    Yes, people survive with less time or no time off at all. I’m convinced some brag about it like some badge of honor to make themselves feel better.

    Thank you for being considerate of your family’s needs. Good luck!





  • TotMtoParentingI'm a horrible mother
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    4 months ago

    You’re doing great. These tiny humans are very stressful and can be very difficult. It’s hard for everyone when they have limited means of communication. You are human, with human reactions. Be gentle with yourself.



  • TotMtoParentingBreak the wheel
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    5 months ago

    For sure. I told her that she didn’t have to, it’s not her job or chore. She’s 4, for context. I just want her to pick up her toys at the end of the day 😭

    Mostly though, I want her to know that I appreciate her, and that I notice the little things.

    What do you think would have been helpful for you growing up?









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