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Cake day: August 25th, 2023

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  • I find it convenient to be able to write notes on whatever machine I have with me at the time - desktop, laptop(s), or phone. If I only had one device I used, it would be easier to keep a backup on local storage. With multiple devices I prefer to have up-to-date notes on each device, and so I’ve leaned more towards remote storage and peer-to-peer file synchronization. This does add some security holes, but it’s acceptable within my threat model. Frankly, I’ve never used local storage across multiple devices because I don’t know how to do that, if it can be done with Borg but I will check it out!







  • I think self-awareness can be a really positive tool to break yourself out of restrictive situations and thought patterns that may be causing you harm. I’ve found this to be true in my own life, with journaling in particular being one of the most beneficial kinds of self reflection. It’s gotten me out of bad relationships, living situations, and addictions.

    That said, self-awareness that stares at a wall of things-you-can’t-actually-change can definitely be depressing.












  • I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this qt, it can be really tough. I found myself in a similar spot when I transitioned and moved to a rural area. It’s been two years since then and i’m extremely happy in a T4T relationship.

    On “feeling like a freak,” yeah, I get that. It sucks to feel that way. Part of that perception changes with time as hormones do their thing and you fit more into a feminine role… part of it doesn’t go away. I think it’s important to realize that if people are around you and being friendly they likely don’t think you’re a freak, and acting as if they do will just make it awkward. You’re not a pervert for being trans and liking cis women. Be confident and love yourself.

    Feel free to reach out if you need someone to talk to <3 all will be alright.