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Cake day: 2023年6月19日

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  • My therapist specialised in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, so we started out by trying to identifying things in my life that I was overreacting to. It turned out I was dealing with Real Shit, and remarkably chill under the circumstances. We had to abandon the CBT approach.

    That was still helpful though. By asking the question, it validated my behaviour, so I didn’t doubt myself as much going forward. It helped me make some big life changes.






  • I’m on Bazzite after giving the other ublue flavours a try. It took a couple of weeks to get comfortable with the new philosophy, but now I can’t see myself going back. What felt like limitations at first, now feels like good habits. All my dev work is done in containers, so it just makes sense.



  • I grew up assuming every adult should be self-sufficient, so I learnt all of cooking, cleaning, gardening, basic repairs, home maintenance, sewing, etc. I think the most likely people to have a problem with that never learnt it themselves, so they feel inadequate.

    It became an issue in my first serious relationship because she didn’t cook or clean much. She definitely never tried to nurture so much as a plant. I had no problem with that because I could, but she started to feel less feminine, and eventually turned it around on me. The guys she left me for were completely useless, but they didn’t highlight her insecurities so she was happy. At least for a short while.

    People who are confident in their identity and abilities don’t do this, and that’s who you want to find anyway, regardless of gender.