Wait So Long - Trampled by Turtles

Mama - My Chemical Romance

Curses - Crane Wives

Your question is a little unclear.

If you’re talking about a debate, or needing to approach someone about something, it’s best to go in as prepared as possible and address any new arguments as they come.

However, the other person has to feel like they’re being heard, understood, and (often) validated in some form—even if it’s not completely genuine—if there is ever a chance of getting them to change their mind.

If this is a personal (or professional) conflict, though, be careful. To some people, it doesn’t matter what you say or how you say it, even if they’re in the wrong.

Yes; I do everything solo, for the most part. They’re generally pretty easy.

Though I like Shadowheart too, I had a crush on Karlach pretty much immediately. I had no choice but to romance her. She’s so sincere and adorable!

you forgot these hits:

• Oops! I Did it Again??? (running into things so often that you’re constantly finding bruises you don’t remember getting)
• Analysis Paralysis
• Justice Sensitivity (it totally helps to live in a fascist state)
• Having Mental Breakdowns Over Trivialities Disorder✨️
  • Hard mode: surprise, PMS too! fuck you loser lol

Gee. It’s almost like language evolves!

What would you prefer that people say instead?

yeah, you’re the asshole. Kind of. Though in the grand scheme of things, there are farrrrrrrr worse things you could’ve done.

The following is going to sound harsh. It may or may not be true; I don’t know you, you’re young (or at least I really hope so), and everyone has the ability to change, anyway. But I think it might be helpful for me to explain the impression that you MAY have given her.

You asking her out before actually getting to know her (presumably, since you just met) communicates to her that you didn’t care to. That you are more interested in what you can get from her than in her as a person. That you jumped to considering a romantic relationship before even considering a friendship. And that you’re primarily seeking sex and/or relief from your lonliness, not spending time with her because you genuinely like her and want to know more about her.

I understand the loneliness, truly. I know it’s really really fucking painful. But please hang in there. This will get way easier over time, as long as you’re honest, gracious, and accountable to yourself and others.

There are so many lessons we all have to learn one way or another. Don’t be hard on yourself.

yeah, but some people will in there for life regardless. perhaps one of them will feel an overwhelming urge to dispatch justice. :)

probably not, but a girl can dream.

apparently there’s some law in the UK that mandates it now 🙄

when I was in high school, I found a puppy (not totally sure, but I’m guessing a pit bull/lab mix) on the porch of my parent’s place a few days before Christmas. Best guess is someone dumped her off at the property, since it’s a farm in a relatively remote area.

Anyway, I convinced my parents to let us keep her. Charlie was an extremely beautiful and sweet dog. But eventually I left for college and moved away.

During the last few years of her life/she would act erratically around me when I’d visit. One second she’d be happy to see me, and the next she growled and snapped at me, and did this to others, too. I ended up having to avoid her entirely. Devastating, to say the least.

We never found out why, despite visits to the vet. Dementia, perhaps.

If you actually look at at the graphs, they all show a pretty significant and stead drop over the decades.

if you actually read my comment, I’ve already mentioned its decline. maybe you need a refresher. :)

means at least 87% of the population don’t hold this view.

thanks. believe it or not, I do know how percentages work. But at no point did I claim that most of the population feels this way.

A group of people doesn’t have to be a majority to be statistically significant. If 13% of people suddenly woke up with arms growing from the tops of their heads, you’d be noticng them all the damn time, unless you’re a recluse.

This absolutely has a real-world effect on who is voted into office, especially when you also consider which demographics vote. And consequently, less exposure to women in politics in office = a slower rate of acceptance of them.

Not to mention, again, the rise of conservatism that is certainly not helping the matter.

So while my experience is ancedotal, this shows

Yeah so as I mentioned, I’ve had a different experience. Are you a woman? Do you frequently seek out discussions about/research on/history of women? gender studies? inequality?

Because otherwise, there’s no wonder why you haven’t experienced what I have.

Your experience doesn’t show anything. Neither does mine, because anecdotes are not, nor ever will be, valid evidence of anything useful in discussions about social or political issues.

Your life experiences don’t necessarily reflect those of everyone else, FYI. I’ve seen and heard this or some other "women are too emotional/illogical/irrational/cryptic/ect too many times.

There are relatively recent studies/surveys, like this one (PDF) that suggest that a pretty significant portion of the population still feel women are too emotional to be in politics. 13% as of 2019 in that one.

While I’d think—or at least hope—that this is still going down overall, the rise in conservativism is definitely slowing the decline.

Are there exceptions? Absolutely.

Exceptions imply that these roles are not strictly inherent to animal (including human) behavior. If colonizing countries weren’t all patriarchal, I’m sure we would’ve seen many more exceptions.

These exceptions exist for a reason, whether or not they fit your personal worldview.

But for most of the existence of the human species, it was just like that - males were taking care of food and protection, while females were doing the “safer” jobs, like childcare of gathering.

This is just a bad argument, and has been used to justify all kinds of awful things. why would the fact that humans have always done things a certain way imply that that’s a good thing? Is slavery a good thing? rape? colonization? genocide?

Rigid gender roles have only truly served half of the human population. Even so, men have also suffered in other ways because of them. Why shouldn’t we work to better everyone’s lives, in as many ways as we can manage?

Yes, biology is complex, but the case of humans is rather clear-cut.

This is demonstrably false. Biologists have known as much for… quite a while. Please consider informing yourself before making claims about important topics.

do you have an old cell phone? (or, don’t underestimate freecycle!) You could put it under your bed or something, so it’s closer to the sound, and leave it recording. Maybe turn up the mic’s sensitivity. Portable charge banks are helpful if you have one.

I don’t necessarily believe that this trait is inherent to humankind; instead, I think it’s a product of cultures that value things like power and hyperindividualism.

I do believe that there will always be (insecure) people who seek some level of power and/or wealth without regard for others. Whether or not they succeed would—I assume—depend on how that society views authority/skepticism/community/ect; if allowed, that would nudge society a little bit in that direction. And so on.

Sadly, , some governments and corporations have spent millenia aquiring and wielding their vast power and wealth to cripple and exploit other societies that they can benefit from without too much pushback. Which obviously ravages those cultures, too, and often by design.

So… it’s a little hard to know for certain what is truly in our nature.

sure, some people would, but the opinions of the kinds of people who’d be judgemental over something as trivial as a goddamn pillow really aren’t worth much imo.

Firstly, a disclaimer…while I shouldn’t really have to say this given the language I’ve used, I will anyway: I am by no means talking about ALL men.

The problem is that this is not an unfounded stereotype, made evident by the fact that the discrepancy between how household and childcare tasks are divided between partners (heterosexual, at least) is still a significant and prevalent issue.

Subconsciously or otherwise, this sadly rings true with a lot of men, who, at least in part, want—and sometimes expect—a woman who will adopt every role a mother would take. That is, taking care of most of the chores/household management/childcare duties, and without protest. Even when, say, both of them work full-time jobs.

Too many of these men either 1. do not know how to do simple household tasks (and are not unlikely to have adopted learned helplessness as a result), 2. deliberately delay or fuck up chores to get their partner to get frustrated and give up on asking for help altogether, or 3. simply don’t notice how much more work their partner is doing than they are.

I acknowledge that a lot of boys aren’t taught how to cook do chores as much as girls are, and those who haven’t been were failed by the adults in their life in that regard. It’s not a valid excuse once you’re an adult, though.

Yes, I agree that you’re overreacting. I suggest you nip this in the bud ASAP, though, if you want to have healthy relationships.

Jealousy comes from insecurity. This torturous feeling will keep happening until you work on building your own self-confidence and learn healthy coping methods. If you can’t see a therapist, I’m sure there are plenty of resources and shared experiences online that you can gain insight from the start with, at least.

I’m glad that you sense that this is bringing out some alarming feelings in you. It might be a good idea to back off until you address them, even though I know that’d be painful too. You really do NOT want to let that kind of shit fester, though.

Have you had anyone take a look at your resume? When was the last time you reviewed it? Is it at least somewhat visually appealing? How long is it?

Unfortunately, it may be a good idea to “customize” each submission by incorporating keywords from the actual listing into your resume.

I’m not the one to give advice on this, really, but I’ve heard of people having a lot of success with networking and reaching out directly to recruiters/managers/ect.