I agree with having the server run Proxmox like others have said. Check out these YouTube channels for helpful information/guides:

LearnLinuxTV

LawrenceSystems

CraftComputing

Makes sense. Trained on software engineers working that pattern for decades.

I would suggest couples counseling with a therapist that has experience with ADHD clients.

That is a take of the “there are 2 wolves inside you” thing I have never heard before.

Didn’t it go beyond “destroyed the empire”? I have vague memories of wiping out cities then coming back days or weeks later to kill all the survivors that came out of hiding and salting the earth so nothing would grow.

I just started playing with Dockhand and it looks like it has a built in update schedule mechanism. It’s fills a comparable role as Portainer, so maybe check that out.

It’s hard to be thoughtful about why you aren’t good at swimming while you are actively fighting to keep your head above water.

Welcome to the club. It sounds like you have a journey of learning and healing. I personally find some YouTube channels helpful you may want the check out:

https://youtube.com/@healthygamergg

https://youtube.com/@howtoadhd

I know it can be really hard. You will probably oscillate between “This is fine, I got this” and “This is impossible and it will never get better”. Just know your not alone in the experience and you are capable of improving things. It will take time and help, but you can do it.

I would make an FAQ. I think for getting tone it is important to know what things are hard facts, what things are more subjective preferences, and what’s things are “we had to make a choice between options with no clear ‘best’ option”.

Has there ever been a more elegant “fuck around and find out”?

My experience has been the more I assume I am an idiot and plan accordingly, the less true it is in practice.

Perl is fine so long as you write code based on the assumption it will be maintained an idiot that doesn’t know the code at all and needs hand holding. And that is why 6 months later I can understand the code I wrote.

I see no problem with using an extra precise spoon.

I think the key misunderstanding is in the word “just”. It implies that being relaxed is a state that will happen on its own if you allow it. But in reality for us “to relax” is an action we need to do deliberately.

If your like me it’s because you have internalized the idea that your value as a person comes directly from being productive/useful. Therefore NOT being productive means you have no value and are in mortal peril.

I would be inclined to think that if you are just renting a machine or VM and all the configuration/maintenance is your problem it would be close enough. But I am not a mod and don’t want to be.

My understanding is that Scrum is a tool box. You figure out what tools fit for your team. The problem arises when people are in charge that don’t understand the what the team is doing or the toolset provided by Scrum. They then try to use every tool and it goes poorly.

If I read it correctly, he used a LLM to help him write Python for a hobby project. I think this falls into an open minded, “who cares?”. Come back when he used it for something intended for public or commercial use.

My friend just upgraded from a GTX 1070 to an ARC B580. His motherboard was pretty old so getting bios updated with resizeable bar was some work. He also chose reinstall with Ubuntu because it was the version of Linux that was listed as officially supported. After that he has been happy with the performance increase he has gotten.

I have a Pfsense router and run HAproxy on it. Most of the services I have run on 3 VMs in a Docker Swarm. HAproxy can point to all three and just uses the first to respond. I think this is what you are going for. I haven’t tested how robust this solution is because my primary motivation was wanting to play with Docker Swarm once I accepted K8s was not worth the effort.