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  • Needs are always based on objectives. Need to stay alive? Food, shelter, basic hygiene. Need to stay sane? Stimulation, interaction, meaning. Need to be happy? Free time, achievement.

    The important thing is they are always conditional. You don’t even need to stay alive, unless you have an objective that requires it. You don’t need to go to the movies, unless your objective is to unwind. And so on.

    Most often our wants and desires are what creates need as a requirement to achieve them.










  • In all honesty, this will likely never be an issue that you can resolve with your parents or your sister. Think of our behavior like scratching a surface, with each pass the scratch gets deeper and deeper and harder to get out of. You and your parents have been following this pattern for so long you can’t erase it.

    What you can do, is change yourself. Let it be ok if they appreciate your sister more. Whether they do or not you are the same person. It’s time to appreciate you for your own sake, whatever your parents think.

    Try to be happy despite them. Go flourish despite them. Tolerate their shortcomings as best you can and try to give and receive what love you can.

    The irony of all of this is that when you finally get to the point where you no longer care whether you have their approval, that’s when you are most likely to get it.

    Good luck on your journey.










  • mrcleanuptoLinux@lemmy.mlLinux distro for noob
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    I use Garuda, which is Arch based. Pretty much every time I’ve had a problem it’s been solved by update, restart.

    If you want to try and build a raw Arch system from scratch, maybe it’s still complicated, I don’t know, but there are easy Arch options these days.