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  • Like some other folks in this thread I also don’t like the phrasing of the question. A relationship doesn’t put you in a position to decide what another person is allowed to do. A relationship is about what you both can agree and commit on that fulfills / serves everyones needs.

    I dont care if my partners are doing sex work, although I might worry for their safety, depending on their practice. For Onlyfans specifically I’d want to make sure that they are fine with the consequences of getting doxxed / people finding out about it. Sadly there’s still a lot of stigma about doing porn in society and I think you shouldn’t take that decision lightly. On the other hand, fuck society, do what thou wilt! :D

    What would be a problem for me is what I currently see as exploitative behavior in the context of OF. Leaning into and furthering the parasocial relationship with the subscribers to the point that people spend more than they can afford or that they neglect relationships in their offline life. I understand that there is a lot of money in this, and I’d be open to discuss and understand their side of view, but if I would come to the conclusion that they’re putting their profit above the harm that they’re causing, that might be a deal breaker for me. But I also think that you can absolutely do OF while respecting your audience and minimize potential harm.