• 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 🇮 @pawb.social
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    1. The little nub under the hood at the top is the clit.

    2. On the inside, about a finger deep, is a spot that kinda feels like a raspberry. That’s the g-spot.

    3. Like anyone else, listen to what they tell you they want and do that.

    4. If it gets looser and wetter, you’re doing it right.

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      On top of that,

      1. Lick your fingers before attempting fingering or rubbing the clit. Going in dry is uncomfortable.

      2. Start rubbing or licking slow. Don’t just dive right to the clit and rub hard first thing.

      3. They probably won’t orgasm from penetration alone.

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    always lead off with “you look just like your mother…” when you first get your face in front of it

  • lnsfw3@lemmynsfw.com
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    Pay attention, lots of attention, to her clit. Penetrative sex may get her off, but clit play with your tongue or fingers will almost definitely get her juices flowing.

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    Pan queer here. To answer your question, a vagina is like a really loose ass that doesn’t need much cleaning. You might feel at home if you’re comfortable topping, or you might be disturbed by the experience.

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    It’s really about picking the right partner. The details of what to do, how to do it don’t matter much even if you were straight because there’s just too much individual variance in what people like. Yeah, the usual advice of not ignoring the clit applies almost all the time, but beyond that, you gotta communicate before and during.

    Be honest, be open, and find someone that’s both willing to be a supportive guide to their body, as well as understanding that it is an experiment. It’s one of those times when it really should be about one person. If you go into it thinking about what you’re doing to her, you aren’t really going to satisfy that curiosity.

    Instead, think about negotiating a mutually pleasant experience where you can explore, ask questions, and work your way through the experience. Tbh, that’s a great thing for any first experience, but when you’re crossing a major barrier like orientation, it’s damn important.

    For real, you aren’t going to master that pussy your first time having access to one. Nobody does. So focus on finding that partner that’s going into it with a frame of thought that matches what you want out of the experience.

    Now, like others have said, you’ll notice a lot of differences, beyond the obvious. The way pussy feels vs anal is a massive difference, but you might be surprised to find out that a man’s ass feels different than a woman’s, as does oral. The male body responds differently to anal as well. Neither is better than the other, but (or butt, I guess) if you end up enjoying things, and having sex with women anally, you’ll get what I mean.

    You’d also be really well off if you can find a partner willing to let you switch back and forth between positions to really get an idea of why doggie vs missionary can be such a major difference in stimulation and pleasure.

    Now, I can’t say all that without saying that “holes” aren’t actually what sexual orientation is about. So a fair warning that your body may not cooperate because your brain says hell no. I used to be active in bdsm circles, and sometimes topped men in scenes that included penetration. I’m not attracted to men, so it occasionally took assistance to make that part happen. So, if you run into trouble, you may end up needing similar assistance, or to make sure your partner is very masculine while still being a woman. Ymmv, but I had less trouble with very feminine men at least.

    Only thing I can think of to add is that exploring outside of your orientation can be very rewarding on multiple levels. But it can also be stressful, so be prepared for that, just in case.